Masculinity

Coming of Age, the Young Men sometimes ask me about Masculinity,
Often wrestling with the Question: Are they “Masculine Enough?”…
I tell them to be careful of ever placing a Question Mark after that word, “Enough,” when referring to themselves — in the context of one’s self, it is a word best followed by an exclamation point.
I am Enough!
I have Enough!
I do Enough!
I give Enough!…
And to always align with their own Inner Being about how Truthful these statements feel,
in terms of how they are Showing Up for their Life
at any given moment.

What is Masculinity?
Masculinity is Gentleness.
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Three Beautiful Things

Charles Johnson Tuthill

Last Week there was a Memorial for my friend CHARLES.
He was a fairly renowned Acting Teacher.
And I Loved Him!

Who could Not Love CHARLES!
There was Nothing not to Love!

It was a Simple and Heartfelt Memorial at an Acting Studio where he taught.
So Many Current and Former Students.
A few presentations, after which anyone who had something to say was invited to come forward.
After several students spoke, I got up,
“So many of you are talking about CHARLES as a Teacher,” I began. “But I knew CHARLES as a Student.”
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Reinventing OurSelves in the Second Half of Life

It is Nothing Short of Glorious!
In our Youth-Focused Culture, it may seem daunting.
But it is as natural as any other coming of age!
And we’ve been through so many such transitions…

Like an Onion, we shed our skin and there is a Whole New Fresh and Flavorful Layer Underneath!
It feels like bitterness as it squirts in our eye, but ultimately it makes everything Sweeter!
That which we see as an Ending is also a Beginning!

t.s.eliot put it this way:
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Advice to a Young Man in Love

In honor of MESSY MARCH…
In honor of the Beginning of Spring…

Advice to a Young Man in Love

FALL!
Yes, I know it is CounterIntuitive!
Do it Anyway!
FALL!
Let Go of Everything that you Know and have Ever Known,
And Learn Everything that you Don’t Know!
It is the Most Truthful State for a Human Being — this State of Discovery, this State of Unknowing,
Though it takes great Wisdom to Understand this.

Everything of which you are So Terrified!
YEAH! I KNOW!
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Open and Listening

Me with FRAN FEARNLEY

Me with FRAN FEARNLEY

In the midst of all of the tumultuousness that is going on in the United States and Across the World…
I met this Lady.
Her name is FRAN.

My close friends who live in PeterBorough, Ontario took me to ZIMART one summer’s afternoon.
Visit Here: www.zimart.ca
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Touching God for the First Time

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Dad, during his Gymnastics Days

My Dad passed away Five Years ago this Morning.
My Mother and I were with him.
He was Ninety Years Old.
 
During his battle with Cancer, he chose Home Hospice Care.
We took care of him.
One of those things that you can in no way be prepared for,
But as the Universal Prayer goes,
“Dear God, Please turn me into someone who can do this!”
 
On the day he died, I sent this Letter to my Nephews and Niece.
Today, in memoriam, I am posting it here:
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To All of the Students Who Have Failed My Class…

ReportCardAs another Academic Year draws to a close let us review:

1. Your parents paying a quarter of a million dollars for your college education does not entitle you to a diploma. You earn that through your work.
Yes, the money is obscene. Yes, as NEAL GABLER put it in last month’s article in the THE ATLANTIC [Link may be found here:

https://livethequestionsnow.com/2016/05/04/abbondanza/#more-1661%20

], “I’m not saying that universities are extortionist, but, well…universities are extortionist” — Educational institutions can be a lot like the Profiteering Insurance Companies that call themselves “Health Care.”  They don’t care about your Health. They are there to take your money.

A Meme from the Internet

A Meme from the Internet

Nevertheless, Tuition Payment does not entitle you to a degree.
It entitles you to something much better: an Education.

2. When you get out into the real world and hold a job for 6 months, that does not qualify you as an expert in your field. (more…)

REBIRTH

IMG_4506Easter Morning.
Another one of those “Religious” Holidays
So I am nervous about saying, “Happy Easter!”
Because if someone belongs to a religion that doesn’t celebrate
Or associates Christianity with the ideology of TED CRUZ or other neo-cons,
They might be offended.
But, like most Holidays from YOM KIPPUR to DIWALI to CHRISTMAS…
To me, it’s an Invitation!
Welcome!
Come Celebrate!
HAPPY EASTER!

REBIRTH!
It can mean So Many Things.

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Christmas Card 2015

IMG_2593…At Last!
And this year, it’s posted before WASHINGTON’S BIRTHDAY! 🙂
For those who don’t know, My Christmas Card traditionally arrives sometime in January or February, but has always made it out before Easter Sunday! After so many years, it has become somewhat of a Lovely Tradition!
I think of it as one way of Celebrating the Values of Christmas the Whole Year through!
As we get deeper into Winter, reminders of Kindness, Generosity, Love, Peace on Earth and Good Will toward Everyone are generally Welcome and Appreciated.
I hope that this story can be that for you.
And So, here even in the middle of February, I offer you my Christmas Card.
Feel free to curl up with a  Mug of Hot Cacao, or your favorite Tea, and Enjoy!
Sent to you with Love and Wishing You all the Bountiful Blessings of Winter…

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Call to Joy

“God placed in the mind the call to Joy.
This call is so strong that the ego always dissolves at its sound.”
— T, 69. The Course in Miracles
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What is your Call to JOY?
Is it to Write?
To Sing?
To play some Musical Instrument?
Is it to Paint?
To Garden?
To go for a Walk?
Is it to enjoy an evening with Friends?
To see Theater?
To bring a child to see a Movie?
To build a Snowman?
To build a treasured Memory?
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