A Daily Walk

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How does one reach across the aisle on this?

The other day, I posted the following comment to a friend from High School who had posted “BIDEN is NOT My President”:

I Hear what you are saying and I am listening to your pain about it. I do think that some of the media in your circles may have spun things a certain way. Really, I know lots of people and Lots of Liberals in the Theater World and various Communities to which I belong. I don’t know ANYONE — I mean, ANYONE — who supports Looting or Socialism or any of the things that I understand that you fear. For most of us, BIDEN would not have been our choice of Candidate, mostly because he seems way too Centrist — almost more toward Republican. In fact, his views are so moderate that most of us think of him as what we perceived Republicans to be before tRUMP. So, in a way, I feel like he is an ideal Candidate for this transition. I know that you supported tRUMP and obviously you saw some good in his policies and what he did. But that may have caused you to turn a blind eye to the indignities many Americans were suffering — People with Disabilities, People of Color, Gay People, Middle Class People… and his handling of the Coronavirus speaks for itself. So maybe consider, instead of pre-paving how awful it will all be, what good can come of a more Centrist Democrat in this transition. I understand that because tRUMP was so extremist, it may feel like a great personal loss, and it may seem that BIDEN is a far flung Leftist by comparison. But maybe some of tRUMP’s extremes were a bit too far. Perhaps — just perhaps — we could begin now to build less walls and more bridges, and maybe that will yield some Good things, as well. I am not trying to convince you or change your mind — just introducing the possibility that a lot of the extreme leftist policies that seem so terrifying to you may not be what this is. It may seem that way, because tRUMP was so far in the other direction, but maybe there will be some good that comes of it. The restoring of dignity to the office of President and having someone who speaks respectfully to others I will consider a great step forward for us all, and especially for your children’s future! XXOO

His response was basically that Liberals have been so mean that they cannot be forgiven – there was a “Not You!” included in the middle of that which I appreciated, although I can be pretty mean when I feel people’s rights are being threatened, as this retiring administration has repeatedly done since Day One. So I am not so sure it’s not me!

I am struggling here.

BIDEN was Elected with the most Votes in the history of this Country!

And yet, TRUMP was elected with even more votes than he got last time!

What am I missing?

I understand, and everyone keeps saying it: We must find a way to Heal and Move Forward together. BIDEN himself said it:

“It’s time to put away the harsh rhetoric, lower the temperature, see each other again, listen to each other again. And to make progress, we have to stop treating our opponents as our enemies. They are not our enemies. They are Americans. They are Americans.”

I want to!
Show me How!

I understand the need to move forward in unity, but what are we supposed to say?


‘Hey, I guess you were right about COVID and it’s just a hoax and I’ll stop wearing my mask too!’

or ‘Yeah, I hope we don’t get Healthcare after all!’

or ‘Kids in cages and forced hysterectomies – No Biggie!’?

In communicating with friends from High School on Social Media, I almost never unfriend anyone, because how are we to Learn and Grow without hearing contrasting points of view?

But I find that, especially when their friends and family, whom I do not know, chime in, I am unable to get a clear answer to what it is about supporting TRUMP that they like.

I ask them

Why do they follow him? 

What is this thing that they seem to be getting out of it?

Why do they support what he tells them when it contrasts the reports of scientists, and experts in any given field?

Invariably, long trails of discussion lead to one of two outcomes: Either they disengage without every answering these questions, leaving only silence, or they tell me, as I saw this morning, 

“you have Trump Derangement Syndrome. I can be objective even if I don’t like someone 😀

I see nothing objective from the TRUMP Supporters with whom I have interacted in any of the conversations or arguments that we have had, yet they are always quick to proclaim how “objective” they are. They seem to like to assert that they listen to news sources, “on both sides” yet I find that they unfailingly quote Fox News and Breitbart and they consistently condemn News Sources I consider reliable, such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, NPR, CNN, Politico, Forbes, and sites such as Snopes, Wikipedia, and myriad others.) 

Still, I am trying!

I tried.

I will continue to try.

It is so painfully daunting.

They are Americans. They are my fellow-countrypersons.

I feel they have hurt me.

They feel I have hurt them.

If one of us doesn’t forgive the other, how will we ever begin to heal as a Nation?

It didn’t used to be like this.

But it’s like this now.

And we have to start somewhere.

So how about here? And now?

The first step is Awareness


From what I can tell, TRUMP supporters seem to fear BIDEN because they fear their taxes will be raised (Unless they make over 400K per year, that will not happen under the plan he has proposed.) But those of us who support BIDEN and HARRIS or who are even just anti-TRUMP (Maybe I do have “TRUMP Derangement Syndrome,” but is that an unfounded condition?) – We are fighting for our Lives! We are fighting for our Basic Human Rights: Health Care and a Woman’s right to Choose, LGBTQ Rights and the Rights of People of Color to Vote… What we stood to lose here was so much greater than what the TRUMP Republicans did.

By the way, TRUMP’s Tax Law raised taxes on so many of us who toil away in Show Business with relatively low income by Two to Five Thousand Dollars, just from among people I know!

So that means the TRUMP Supporters either make way more money or just didn’t notice the increase. I suppose that’s an easy one to forgive – I expect that any American who gets a tax break, myself included, doesn’t look around to wonder who else did or didn’t get one.

And from what I can ascertain, we could all agree that we are united against Congress voting themselves salary increases and getting Top Level Health Care and Full pensions for life afterward. Positions in Congress ought to be positions of Stewardship, not gouging personal profit. I think that both sides seem to agree on that.

A Post from Social Media

TRUMP’s unwillingness to concede the election is something we do not agree on.

An Image from the internet which describes how I really feel about tRUMP…

This makes it really difficult because this Wonderful Experiment in Democracy called The United States of America will be over in seventy days if tRUMP gets his way.

On Friday, the head of the U.S. Nuclear Weapons Agency resigned. On Monday, TRUMP fired MARK ESPER, the Secretary of Defense who opposed the use of troops on U.S. Streets. General Services Administration (GSA) Administrator EMILY MURPHY, a TRUMP appointee, is refusing to release transition funds and support in accordance with the Presidential Transition Act of 1963.

And yesterday, Secretary of State MIKE POMPEO had these chilling words to offer:

Are we experiencing an attempt at a coup?
Will they succeed?

I am trying to reach across the aisle.

I am trying to talk to people and take in their feelings of hurt and devastation.

Though I must confess, after four years and so many versions of “I Win Bigly!” and “Everyone else is a Loser! Loser! Loser!” it was a joy to hear a clear intelligent voice of humility:

“…All those of you who voted for president tRUMP I understand the disappointment tonight,” Biden said. “I’ve lost a couple times myself. But now let’s give each other a chance. It’s time to put away the harsh rhetoric. Lower the temperature. See each other again, listen to each other again…”

I am trying to see TRUMP Supporters…

But what I see is this:

And the Money Grab… Do TRUMP Supporters See that?

Here is where your money goes

Perhaps that is something else we could agree on.

Or perhaps that is something else to which I would never get an answer.

TRUMP sends his supporters emails every few hours soliciting money to fight election fraud but the money goes to his PACS for 45 himself.

And they give it to him!


Now other Republicans are doing it too!

Governor KRISTI NOEM is asking for “donations” to “bring home the President,” and it appears the money goes to her own re-election campaign.


So, I can’t help wondering, while I am trying to listen, if I solicited donations from TRUMP Supporters to combat Election Fraud, can I keep the money too?

Beautiful Drawing from the internet — I so wish the artist had signed it.

But the Question on my heart is the question that Chief Counsel for the U.S. Army, JOSEPH N. WELCH asked JOE MCCARTHY on June 9,1954…

At Long Last, have you no sense of Decency?

The Republicans I engage with on social media talk derogatorily about RINO’s (i.e.: “Republicans in Name Only,” although I had to look that up!) 

They hate them as much as they hate us.

I do not even know what the term means. Are they Republicans who are against TRUMPism? Or are they supporting some ideal of what the Republican Party used to be? Are they not Conservative Enough? Conservative Enough for whom? To do what?

I know this: While DONALD TRUMP may be gone, although he still has not conceded – which is pathetic and potentially, based on his behavior these past four or five days, dangerous to the country and the World – TRUMPism is a problem here in America that is not going away. Nearly 70 Million voted for him – 55% of White Suburban Women Voted for him. Hispanics Voted for him and LGBTQ People and Black People.

I cannot understand what he offers at all – not just to these groups, but at all!

I ask.

I cannot get a clear answer.

Image from Social Media

It makes me think that perhaps they just hate Black People or feel a need to dominate women by revoking their rights or they believe in White Supremacy…

Image from Social Media

But some Black People and most White Suburban Women voted for him.

I have family members and close friends for decades whom I suspect voted for him.

I know people whom I believe to be Good People in so many ways whom I suspect  voted for him.

But they mostly don’t admit it directly, and no one can explain to me why.

Sometimes, they will make some vague reference to the economy, but TRUMP’s handling of the Coronavirus crashed the economy.

An image from Social Media

What is really going on?

I so want to understand this, and I cannot make sense of it!
Some days I think to myself that I am living like JIM CARREY in THE TRUMAN SHOW and everyone is in on the joke except me!

Image from the internet lamenting my exact question

I know this: It has been so nice to hear the President Elect say, “God Bless our Troops,” at the end of his speeches, thanking his Wife and Family, and so many others who deserve Respect.

It has comforted me greatly that children will see once again an example of Fine Character and Decency.

And Respect.

Image from Social Media

I want this World which I believe that we as a Country are about to reenter!

I also want us all together in it!

I recognize that I may not be able to have that – but I want to at least understand it. I would like to better understand what is going on in the minds of those who follow TRUMP.

I want to be able to forgive.

And yet, I must remember to ask forgiveness as well!

Let’s face it, I’ve been a little jumpy these past four years.

Have you?

Mostly, I still don’t even understand how it happened.

Fear of Socialism…

An image from Social Media

The Boogeyman is going to get you.

I understand falling victim to Fearmongering.

But TRUMP Supporters received their one meager $1,200 stimulus check and cashed it. They participate in Medicare and Social Security…

Why do they assume that every example of socialism is Venezuela?

Cartoon from Social Media

Gerrymandering in Maine and South Carolina and Kentucky – I understand that.

[There is an Amazing Documentary on this topic entitled SLAY THE DRAGON which you can rent — Here below is the trailer and link:]

I crave associations with people who think differently than me. As Walter Lippman wrote over a hundred years ago, “Ours is a problem in which deception has become organized and strong; where truth is poisoned at its source; one in which the skill of the shrewdest brains is devoted to misleading a bewildered people. Where all think alike, no one thinks very much.”

So, Yes! If you are a TRUMP Supporter, I hesitate to say it, but please talk to me.

I want to understand you.

I am trying to reach out.

This image from the internet employs some of the words of my favorite Pope — although that is not a very high bar, I genuinely like him.

I am a Christian – not the kind who tells you what to do or cherry picks the Bible to feel superior or twists the teachings of Jesus so that I can manipulate government policies to my personal advantage.

I am the kind who goes with my husband to a really cool church with a Global Justice Mission and we support them in Feeding the Hungry and we do our best to follow the teachings of Jesus Christ which are pretty Beautiful really!

He gave us hard things to do — challenges such as “Love Your Enemies!”

A Meme from Social Media

If you voted for DONALD TRUMP then I feel you are my enemy.

Help me to Forgive You!

Help me to Understand you.

Let’s unpack all this Fear and Hate and look at it together.

I have things I fear too – it is clear to me that they are not the same things as you.

I have things that I hate too – not people. Things, Policies, Acts of Harm…

Help me to Figure out how to Love You again!

Maybe there is a way to start and maybe it is in doing what JOE BIDEN suggested in his Victory Speech, “…See each other again, listen to each other again…”

Please leave our Government alone now and do not destroy our Democracy.

You lost.

Today’s NY Times Headline

I am not saying to “Go Away,” although that would be easier for both of us.

I am saying that I am willing to listen.

I have some experience with hurt and sorrow and pain.

Hell, I’ve spent over thirty years in Show Business – I know what it is to feel unacknowledged and unrecognized and unappreciated.

Please, let’s talk.

As for TRUMP’s actions since Saturday and what appears to be the makings of a coup…

I refer to Edward R. Murrow’s most powerful anti-McCarthy broadcast, March 1954.

Good Night and Good Luck!

I asked my good and wise friend KENNY what to do about all this and he reminded me, “It’s like the old church says, ‘It’s a Daily Walk!’”

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  1. Catherine Matthews

     /  November 12, 2020

    These indeed are baffling – and frightening – times. The fact that our democracy is on the line – and people don’t seem to recognize this – absolutely terrifies me!

    People that I know – or whom I suspect – voted for Trump, seem to be under the illusion that the Republican party is always as it has been. But Trump-ism and the Repulican party are NOT the same thing! These are not the politics of old when both the Republicans and Democrats were able to “agree to disagree” yet still manage to work together for the power of the “Good” – the good of ALL people. Trump does not represent “the people” – he represents himself only. His platform is built on GREED, pure and simple – however not to “spread the wealth” to all – but to protect it for HIMSELF and the one percenters – so the rich can get richer and the rest of us – oh, well! Someone has to be trampled upon to fully benefit the one percenters, right? Does “Let them eat cake” ring a bell? (Trump’s credo – certainly not mine.)

    My personal plea – regardless of political affiliation – is to move forward – together! To accept the outcome of the election – which has taken the time to count ALL votes (rightfully so) and clearly shows Biden to be the winner (both the majority of votes & electoral votes). Trust in the democratic process which is only broken if we now choose to break it. The people have spoken. It’s time to respect that and move on. It’s time to now come together and do “Good” – work together to “fix” poverty, healthcare, racism. It’s time to unite as human beings – forget about political affiliations and let’s work together in love and friendship to make things “better”.

    On Thu, Nov 12, 2020 at 2:05 AM Live The Questions Now wrote:

    > Arnold J. Mungioli posted: ” Photo from Social Media How does one reach > across the aisle on this? The other day, I posted the following comment to > a friend from High School who had posted “BIDEN is NOT My President”: I > Hear what you are saying and I am listening to your pai” >

    • I Love That! Especially, “Trust in the democratic process which is only broken if we now choose to break it. !” Thanx, CATHY! Beautifully Said! XXOO


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